Did you ever came across with the situation in which you have felt so bad because you have found out that the people have been acting incidiously to you ?
...I did. As well in many times.
The circle of human relationship is almost effete. How it get in that situation let me explain you my thesis now.
The relations based exactly on some basis points on my opinion :
1) Honesty
2) Empathy
3) Common Sence & Sensetivity
If it should miss one of these points in relaitonships it's not gonna be working perfect. Because trust ist related on honesty. And when it will be started to lie , it means the trust between two people is broken. Up to certain time can the lier continue his/her own life without any conflict. He/She thinks that it is possible to "manage" the other by being not honest.
Managing of friendship is quite another important theme, in which need the persons the special ability for it. That is what I believe in. To know that you can do and to suppose to know that you can do is something comletely different. It shouldn't confuse each other. Despite of highly thin line between of them there is a BIG DIFFERENCE, if you want to see of course :)
But most people who are used to act like that they prefer it as their lifestyle.
Do you know about what I am most so surprised ?
One day.. when they grow up their own children, they try to teach them to be honest and to try to make empathy with others and to be sensetive against people. Isn't it ironic?!?!?! (hahahahahah)
I would understand when all this happened only in our childhood. In these young years it doesn't created so many consious behaviors, because our brain was rather naked and had been worked simple. But by growing up was everthing much more "planned". Every step in our life we have been met many different people and they have been giving us many scenarios in which we have learned people's cinematic actings. We have seen that they said that they love us and we are best friends, but by any conflict of interests or when it met some new third person or when they need gossipping about third person (you) with someone ; you won't be never welcome at this time. It follows in further more evident in that this small-brained people are trying to exclude their best friends / friends / colleagues or whatever from the present atmosphere / place / relationship. How unconsiousness!
Normally they are thinking that they can hide with "dissambled"act the real feelings or intents.
But it doesn't work. They should be aware of it specifically that such positions like this delated their real faces as naked. There is no any open door, even you would try to fix it better,it doesn't make sense.
The only think what I want to say to this such kind people is ;
- be yourself
- be honest
- make empathy
- be sensitive
- be open
- talking is best way for the relationship
- make your self-image
- don't forget your best friends
- keep the rules for a good relationship in your mind
- trying is ever the power for the continue of relationships or friedship
- make offer
- say sorry
- allow effective time for your special people
- see past and also future
... Don't forget ; one day you will be lying too from a dissemble person that you suppose she / he is your man / girl. Time is ruthless and repeats itself.
xoxo
ö.N
